What is Anger?
Anger is a strong emotion, expressing displeasure, towards someone or something. But it can be worse. Research suggests that prolonged anger and depression can be two sides of the same coin – which explains the increasing demand for anger management classes these days!
Anger is similar to stress in that, being angry is also a natural REACTION to an external or internal stimulus. In fact, being angry is one of the manifestations of stress; so several of the stress management tips can actually become your anger management tips.
And additionally, being angry can also cause further stress.
The difference, however, is while stress is more of a reaction to stimulus, the definition of anger involves the expression of that reaction as well; which makes handling anger issues all the more necessary and important.
What are the Types of Anger?
Well, roughly, three, depending on whom it is directed at. It can be:
All three types could directly bring about any stress that you may experience within you, and could potentially result in misdirected frustration. But the second type, also has the additional possibility of a more specifically directed temper associated with it.
What Causes Anger?
As in the case of stress, our anger is caused by the same hormones released into our system, in preparation to fight a perceived threat. In that sense, being angry is a good defense tactic, and if necessary, a good offense tactic, designed by nature to protect us.
But since we don’t and can’t hit out at everyone and everything that cause these hormones to be released in us, we often misdirect our annoyance at someone or something else instead.
In fact, a lot of such expression is misdirected; we are angry at someone or something, but the heat is taken by someone else or something else.
Now that we have a better understanding of what is anger, what kind of reasons prompt the release of these “anger hormones” into our system? Most often, it can be boiled down to just one cause of anger.
What is Anger Management?
Anger management is about coping with our anger.
It is about calming the reaction within. It is also about controlling the external expression of it.
Why is Managing Anger Important?
A bad temper is not just about the stress you feel within, but also about external expression of it; so it is much more important to learn how to control anger.
While the stress caused by your anger has direct effect on you, but only indirectly affects others, your angry response has the potential to more directly affect your environment and other people.
In other words, the stress involved in being angry can hurt you slowly from inside; but an incorrect external expression of your annoyances or frustrations can cause social and/or legal ramifications that may be more immediate in nature, and have a potential to hurt you a lot more.
Which is why it is all the more important to learn and practice anger management skills.
Do you learn better by listening? If so, you may try audio sources to gain more understanding on what is anger and how to control anger.
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A Time for Relaxation, Vol. 1: Guided Relaxation Techniques for Wellness
– by Beth Freschi
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– by Dr Silvia Hartmann
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Anger Control
– by Effective Learning Systems
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Anger – Wisdom for Cooling the Flames
– by Thich Nhat Hanh
Available On: Audio CD.
Available On: Instant Download. Running: 58 min
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Filed under Panic Attacks by on Nov 27th, 2011.
by Ed Daube, Ph.D.
(California)
The message of anger is that you perceive a threat that you can eliminate if you throw enough power at it
I worked with incarcerated young women whose anger led them to hurt themselves or others.
I also tend to get angry when I have a goal and things don’t go the way I have planned.
Here is what I taught them and what I do..
Anger is a primary emotion which helped us survive as a species. All humans experience it.
The message here is that your anger is a normal part of you and it is okay to be angry.
Emotions like anger and anxiety happen because of how each of us perceives what is happening to us.
All emotions, including anger, have a unique message. This message gives you a clue about how you interpret or make sense of what is happening to you in the moment.
The message of anger is that you perceive a threat that you can eliminate if you throw enough power at it. This is why you get all energized and want to lash out, hurt someone, beat up the computer, or, if your kid is pinned under a car, lift up the car.
Anger never makes you do anything, it gives you the energy to do whatever you decide is needed.
Here is how you use this information..
When you get angry, ask yourself, “What is the threat I believe I am facing?”
If the threat is “real” and involves your life, your family, your finances, your reputation, use the energy of your anger to develop an effective plan to eliminate the threat. This is how organizations such as Mothers Against Drunk Drivers get formed.
If the threat is to your ego or the way you think things should be, or it is something you can’t do anything about, then you can decide that it is not a real threat and does not require immediate action.
When you do this, your anger will decrease.
It takes practice to do the above and it is not easy. It is, however, doable.
I hope that helps.
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by kyRen
(NY)
Anger
5 Tips to Prevent Anger Situations:
1. Be very careful what you tell people. Some may seem like good friends but they can turn on you.
2. Try not to let them break you.
3. Keep good mindset.
4. Love yourself to the point where you don’t care about pleasing people.
5. Think before you speak.
5 Tips to Control Yourself:
1. Laugh at the person that’s trying to make you mad.
2. Let them know how you feel.
3. Act like they are not there.
4. Leave where they are.
5. Sometimes you got to lose your mind one time, and they will leave you alone.
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